Are you putting your relationship on ventilator..?

 

"Few years have gone by now, I have not called my friend. Sure, it will be awkward to call him now, after all these years, who knows if he would have anything to say or will he say anything at all.

There was a time, when being among friends and being in the center of their world was all that mattered but now, with all the responsibilities weighing down on the shoulder, or because of requirements of job or due to being old  that is just not possible ." 

These is what Ramesh has to say to his friend, Prathamesh.

Is being the one in awkward relations whether it be a family one, or a romantic one or of friendly kind, make you uncomfortable?

Well let's get you more uncomfortable then, a part of human brain always tries to find a comfort zone, nothing wrong in that, if it helps you realize your potential? But does it really?

All that comfort zone does is to create border around you, first it protects you from harms and evils, then when the border becomes the boundary between you and your relations thats when you need to ask yourself this question, is life out of comfort that uncomfortable.?

You will find interesting answers to it depending  the type  of personality you bear. The more active or  extroverts  will find out that there are more things to explore and the more reserved or introverts will find out that picking up a phone  and calling  a number was no Herculean task.

What makes our relations awkward, I do remember this incident when one of the co-passenger on a bus, who used to board the same bus as me, would wave and nod, sometimes we would  share a word or two, later, I started avoiding the person, not because the conversation wasn't interesting or that we had a fight or something, it was because the course had just ran out.

Have you gone through these type of situations..?

If yes, then its normal, it happens to everybody, you just need to work on your communication skills.

If these has never happened to you then, pat yourself on your back, you perhaps are very witty and quick witted person, but eventually  you will have someone with whom will get into awkward relationship, you will try to avoid this person and get in the zone of Awkward Relations.

So how to come out of this awkward relations:

First and foremost let not your inhibitions decide for you...perhaps same thing is happening on the other side too.

Next, it's stressful, to go through an awkward relation, if you are scant of dialogues, find new avenues to explore mutually, this  will help you overcome that feeling.

No matter what you do, you are still going to be disappointment  for a person or two, then why worry? Work on your shortcomings and remember  nobody is perfect.

Are you a person who assumes too much? Well if you are such a person, then perhaps, you need to just relax and do what feels right, not what you think is right. Too much pondering  over things have sometimes negative thought manifestations.

Lastly, life is too short to have a awkward relation  with anybody, either end it or breathe some life in to it, don't just put it on ventilator. There's only so much you can do in life that having to deal with an awkward relations has become a chronic problems at this age of instant messaging.

Ask yourself, how should you end or build a relationship, should it be left for dead or is surviving and  gasping for air on good morning and good might messages or are you going to pick up the phone and do something about it.

Relationship of any kind are stressful if you don't work on it, like small kids or little plants, they need all the care in the world you can give.

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