Five Habits of Coping With Stress

How To Manage Stress, By Cultivating Five Easy Habits.

As we venture into the world, full, of race, of time, wealth and accomplishments we retrospect and within that retrospection, we find that we took lot of decisions, some good and then some bad. It is those bad decisions that attract our attention more because we as human being are conditioned to blame. No, we never accept criticism from any person but we are very happy to blame. Blaming any person or thing or an event is easy and natural in the theory and practice.

But consider following things if you are going to through stressful times.

Did you feel frustrated and helpless in situations that seemed very convenient at one time?

If yes then you might have come across what we call learned helplessness according to a research done by the American Psychiatric Association there is absolutely no situation which you cannot overcome.

But we are so focused on the problem that solution is something other than visible.

Look at some things people say when they come across this type of situation crisis.

“it is he/she, I know, it is he/she who did this, now I am nowhere” very common example let’s look at some others.

“I would have done this other way but …...” there is always a ‘but’. Many people across times when retrospect try to reason and placate themselves which reduces their stress to a certain degree. It is not a complete and recommended solution altogether. While reasoning might reduce stress but it doesn’t give lasting solutions. So, these people will always have a but for their situations.

“I tried my best, I am just not lucky enough.” Are you now, well, let us understand what role luck plays in our life. Are we lucky when we score an interview? or make a successful business deal ?or get what we desired? Luck or getting lucky is very lofty term. What is concrete is being determined to see a thing or a communication or relation to the end.

Often, we give up, when we are almost there.

So, when you feel sad, depressed, helpless and lost.  Care to look for following things.

Did you put all your efforts…?

Were you strongly determined to achieve what you desired….?

How badly did you want something to happen or someone to like you…?

When you honestly try to answer these basic questions, you come to realize that, you really didn’t put all your efforts, you were not that determined, and didn’t want it that badly.

So, let’s examine, what’s happening to our brain when we are experiencing depression or when we feel depression. It’s classic example of fight or flight response. Those who choose to fight get to their desired goal 87% of times and for those who flight just reason it out with excuse.

HOW TO MANAGE STRESS BY CULTIVATING FIVE EASY HABBITS: -

1. Speaking to oneself.

People will not call you crazy if you master this art and perform in right time and situations. Research revealed that you get positive self-confidence and stress is reduced in those who spoke to themselves when crisis appeared. Speaking out to oneself is good because only you judge the actions or contemplate a situation and that really lifts your spirit. So next time you are face to face with situation go ahead have a conversation.

2.Look at the positive side

Most people are sitting on bank, just focused on the problem that they are stuck on the island, what they forget is to appreciate a beautiful sunset. That doesn’t mean, you do nothing but sometimes taking a pause relaxes your stress nerve cell and appreciating situations good side help form several hundred new synapses in brain. How many of you have failed in an exam and said wow that’s great I flunked, we know a person who did that, and was one of the greatest scientist in millennia. Thomas Edison failed thousand times and rejoiced the failure each time for he now knew what didn’t work for making a Light Bulb.

3.Respond action with delayed reaction

Many a times when person is present with stimulus, there is an immediate response. Well there is nothing wrong in that since it is one of the basic instincts for survival but modern lifestyle needs different solutions. Instead of reacting immediately, just take a pause, contemplate, reason out.  Action will have a reaction for sure, but then a delayed reaction is wise, sound logical. Imagine a fight breaks aboard a flight, and since both person indulged in fight are impulsive and what started with who goes first to sit, turns out with fists thrown around. So, Respond action with delayed reaction.

4.Tryout a 30-minute relaxation exercise during a day

There are lot of techniques through which you can relax your body, first among those is meditation, yoga, power yoga, pranayama, running, morning walk, a coffee break during office hours can be anything that relaxes your mind. Sooths you. Many people listen to music, many go out of their department and chat with a person from different department. Exercise doesn’t really mean you do pushups and try burning certain calories but an exercise is an activity which can be anything.

5.Start Writing a diary

We have so much to talk or share that we don’t get good listeners among people whom we know. Most of the times we find people are good talkers but there is dearth of good listeners and then you might be in the profession or business where you may not have many people interact. Writing a diary, gives you release that is needed simple lines can open your flood gates like… “Dear Diary Today I did……” can be as simple as that or whatever you chose. Research found out that those who kept diaries were two third times faced less stress in situations where those who didn’t kept a diary felt stress.

For More Coping on Stress and Having a healthy Lifestyle Join

·         Constructive Coping Sessions at below link.

https://www.facebook.com/SK-Wellness-Mental-Health-158410278065924