How To Manage Stress, By Cultivating Five Easy Habits.
As we venture into the world, full, of race, of time, wealth
and accomplishments we retrospect and within that retrospection, we find that
we took lot of decisions, some good and then some bad. It is those bad
decisions that attract our attention more because we as human being are
conditioned to blame. No, we never accept criticism from any person but we are very
happy to blame. Blaming any person or thing or an event is easy and natural in
the theory and practice.
But consider following things if you are going to through
stressful times.
Did you feel frustrated and helpless in situations that
seemed very convenient at one time?
If yes then you might have come across what we call learned helplessness
according to a research done by the American Psychiatric Association there is
absolutely no situation which you cannot overcome.
But we are so focused on the problem that solution is something
other than visible.
Look at some things people say when they come across this
type of situation crisis.
“it is he/she, I know, it is he/she who did this, now I am nowhere”
very common example let’s look at some others.
“I would have done this other way but …...” there is always a ‘but’. Many people across times when
retrospect try to reason and placate themselves which reduces their stress to a
certain degree. It is not a complete and recommended solution altogether. While
reasoning might reduce stress but it doesn’t give lasting solutions. So, these
people will always have a but for their situations.
“I tried my best, I am
just not lucky enough.” Are you now, well, let us understand what role luck
plays in our life. Are we lucky when we score an interview? or make a
successful business deal ?or get what we desired? Luck or getting lucky is very
lofty term. What is concrete is being determined to see a thing or a
communication or relation to the end.
Often, we give up,
when we are almost there.
So, when you feel sad, depressed, helpless and lost. Care to look for following things.
Did you put all your efforts…?
Were you strongly determined to achieve what you desired….?
How badly did you want something to happen or someone to
like you…?
When you honestly try to answer these basic questions, you
come to realize that, you really didn’t put all your efforts, you were not that
determined, and didn’t want it that badly.
So, let’s examine, what’s happening to our brain when we are
experiencing depression or when we feel depression. It’s classic example of fight
or flight response. Those who choose to fight get to their desired goal 87% of
times and for those who flight just reason it out with excuse.
HOW TO MANAGE STRESS BY CULTIVATING FIVE EASY HABBITS: -
1. Speaking to oneself.
People will not call you crazy if you master this art and
perform in right time and situations. Research revealed that you get positive self-confidence
and stress is reduced in those who spoke to themselves when crisis appeared.
Speaking out to oneself is good because only you judge the actions or
contemplate a situation and that really lifts your spirit. So next time you are
face to face with situation go ahead have a conversation.
2.Look at the positive side
Most people are sitting on bank, just focused on the problem
that they are stuck on the island, what they forget is to appreciate a
beautiful sunset. That doesn’t mean, you do nothing but sometimes taking a
pause relaxes your stress nerve cell and appreciating situations good side help
form several hundred new synapses in brain. How many of you have failed in an
exam and said wow that’s great I flunked, we know a person who did that, and
was one of the greatest scientist in millennia. Thomas Edison failed thousand
times and rejoiced the failure each time for he now knew what didn’t work for
making a Light Bulb.
3.Respond action with delayed reaction
Many a times when person is present with stimulus, there is an
immediate response. Well there is nothing wrong in that since it is one of the
basic instincts for survival but modern lifestyle needs different solutions.
Instead of reacting immediately, just take a pause, contemplate, reason
out. Action will have a reaction for
sure, but then a delayed reaction is wise, sound logical. Imagine a fight
breaks aboard a flight, and since both person indulged in fight are impulsive
and what started with who goes first to sit, turns out with fists thrown
around. So, Respond action with delayed reaction.
4.Tryout a 30-minute relaxation exercise during a
day
There are lot of techniques through which you can relax your
body, first among those is meditation, yoga, power yoga, pranayama, running,
morning walk, a coffee break during office hours can be anything that relaxes
your mind. Sooths you. Many people listen to music, many go out of their department
and chat with a person from different department. Exercise doesn’t really mean
you do pushups and try burning certain calories but an exercise is an activity
which can be anything.
5.Start Writing a diary
We have so much to talk or share that we don’t get good
listeners among people whom we know. Most of the times we find people are good
talkers but there is dearth of good listeners and then you might be in the
profession or business where you may not have many people interact. Writing a
diary, gives you release that is needed simple lines can open your flood gates
like… “Dear Diary Today I did……” can be as simple as that or whatever you
chose. Research found out that those who kept diaries were two third times
faced less stress in situations where those who didn’t kept a diary felt
stress.
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